Monday, September 6, 2010

More wedding milestones--and an editorial

Now that biggest items are taken care of, we can relax a little.  But never fear!  We're just slowing, not stopping.

Last week we found our photographer.  We're thrilled with Bonnie, who is a highly recommended professional as well as a homeschool mom.  She has great ideas and we're looking forward to working with her.

We might also have a deejay, although we won't know for certain until our meeting next month.

Last week, we made our first foray into the realm of bridesmaid dress shopping.  Egads!  It's a good thing that we all have a sense of humor, and it's also a very good thing that Devyn is having a very small wedding party--just her sisters.  I can't imagine trying to do this with lots of different opinions to accommodate.

The best thing to come out of that shopping trip was a clearer idea of what Devyn would like her bridesmaids to wear and what they like.  I think we'll come to a good compromise soon, although we might wait and buy those dresses at the same time we get Dev's wedding gown--which is planned for much further down the road.

Okay, now it's time for a little editorial comment.  Remember, these are the opinions of the blogger and in no way reflect the views of the bride or groom.

We stopped at one of the larger, more well-known bridal shops last week.  I don't know what I expected, but it wasn't what I found there.  It was bedlam; the consultants were barely civil and less than welcoming.

I was also astounded by the number of men who were back in the dressing rooms with us as my younger daughters were trying on dresses.  To quote the lady on "Say Yes to the Dress", there were foxes in the henhouse!!  Men were going into stalls with their girlfriends, grooms were weighing in on wedding gowns. . .I didn't like it at all, for several reasons.

I may be a modern, forward thinking and hip MOB, but I'm not that hip.  My daughters were uncomfortable coming out of the dressing stalls into an area that was supposed to be just women and finding many men milling around.  The fit on these dresses is less than perfect, especially for Catie, and so it's not an ideal condition in which to be seen.  I also was privy to several interactions between men and women that made me very uncomfortable.  I'm all in favor of love and affection, but come on, folks! There's a time and a place!

And I guess I'm more old-fashioned than I knew.  I love the idea of the groom seeing the bride in all her finery on their wedding day, as she comes down the aisle.  I don't believe it's bad luck for the groom to see the bride beforehand, but I think it's tradition--and very touching--to do it this way.

So there's my editorial comment:  keep the men out of the dressing areas and keep the groom away from the bridal gown process.


1 comment:

  1. I agree 100%. Men have no place in bridal attire shopping. It's just wrong on so many levels. Yuck. I think this is a new trend - I do not remember this 11 years ago when we were shopping for my dress.